10 ways to deal with the blues

29 12 2009

It could be worse. A random giant could pick you up whilst you're in the middle of pootling about.

At the moment I feel deeply blue. It’s a combination of a number of factors – returning to work, leaving my home country, missing my family and feeling a bit confused about what I’m doing with my life. I think everyone gets a bit depressed at times and the dark winter weather doesn’t help!

There’s not much that one can do about feeling down, you tend to have to just ride it out until it goes away. Usually trying to get into a routine helps as you can go on autopilot until your mood has improved. However, here are 10 ways to deal with the blues:

  1. Accept it. Trying to analyse why you’re sad or work out ways to change your situation will probably make you feel worse. If there’s an obvious cause to your unhappiness then do something but otherwise just try to accept it as one of life’s low times. The high times will come eventually.
  2. Eat well. Eating healthy food and not resorting to too much sugar will help stabilise your energy levels and make you feel more in control.
  3. Exercise. Even a short walk will make you feel more energetic and the fresh air will help clear your head. Try to focus on all the beautiful things around you. Remember that the world is an amazing place.
  4. Do something with your hands. Try cooking, painting, cleaning or craft. By concentrating on a manual task, you will enable your brain to switch off and relax.
  5. Get comfy. Put on your most comfortable clothes, light some scented candles and listen to music or watch a happy movie. Smells can really affect your mood so surround yourself with an uplifting fragrance such as citrus.
  6. Read a book about someone in a similar situation to yours. It is very comforting to know that other people have experienced the same things as you.
  7. Take care of others. Give your loved ones, pets and plants some attention. Nurturing others will help take your mind off yourself and will make you feel better.
  8. Plan something fun. Plan some kind of outing or holiday for one or two months time. It will give you something to look forward too and it will make the time in front of you seem more manageable.
  9. Buy a gift for yourself. The best thing to buy is either the starting kit for a new hobby or an item to make your home prettier.
  10. Remember that nothing lasts forever and that life changes all the time. Try to just appreciate the present because one day you will look back and not understand why you wasted so much time being miserable. Also, forgive yourself. People tend to think that their actions are very important to other people. They aren’t. Just let go of things and where necessary simply say sorry. Try to keep calm and not panic about your sadness but instead try to just focus on getting through each day.



3 responses

14 01 2010

Wise words! And very useful too. I myself suffer the occassional bout of miserabilism and so I have read your post here with interest. I agree with all your points. I particularly find that point 7 resonates with me – helping others, or just attempting to rise out of the doldrums so as to be kind and empathetic, can do wonders to shove those doldrums away. I also like point 8 – something to look forward to is always a good thing! Exercise (point 3) makes sense, but sometimes I just cannot be bothered – I’m an ‘all or nothing’ kinda gal in that department! Thanks, Tamarind Tree, for this blog and I do hope you are lifting out of your own doldrums – you sound resilient so I am sure you have. Here’s hoping you have!

14 01 2010

Thanks for this. Very uplifting and positive words to deal with a difficult situation. Who’s the groovy cat? From what I can see, you have a wonderful smile, Tamarind Tree!

14 01 2010

I have just read the rest of your blogs and I now see that the groovy cat must be ‘Scampington’, of whom you speak in another post. Good to see he is coming on so well and well done for doing such a good and worthy act as saving him from jeopardy.

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